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Blogger Bump Club Week 16 #BloggerBumpClub

August 28, 2014 by Molly 8 Comments

Blogger Bump Club

There are some things about being pregnant that I’ve only just recently remembered since last time. The feeling of wanting to “do it right” is one of them.

I didn’t want to be a moany pregnant woman. I wanted to be a pregnant woman who got on with it and looked glowing in the process. But towards the end, when I started to worry about the birth bit of being pregnant, and my feet were swollen and I couldn’t sleep for longer than two hours at a stretch, that “perfect” pregnant woman kind of disappeared.

I’m remembering that aspect of being pregnant now. Up until a couple of days ago I was still feeling pretty good. We went to a wedding and people were kind, saying I looked well. I felt it too. And I felt it for most of our trip up to see the (self-proclaimed) Northern Love Machine’s family.

35 week pregnant bump

But today I’m tired. Not just a little bit tired but down-to-my-bones tired. We drove 250 miles home today and – without wanting to sound like a drama queen (sorry) – every mile was uncomfortable. I had Braxton Hicks that made me think I was going to give birth on the M6. I needed a wee and nearly wet myself. One of my feet swelled up so much that it looked like I had a balloon on the end of my leg. I was grumpy, miserable and let everyone know it.

And now I feel annoyed with myself. I’m lucky. My baby is kicking around inside me, I have a loving husband who listened to me moan for 250 miles without telling me to shut up. I have a beautiful daughter who told me, “Don’t be grumpy Mummy, we love you. Daddy’s just trying to help.” Yes I feel like there’s not enough room for my insides AND a baby, but I need to suck it up. That’s what it’s like being eight months pregnant.

So I’m ending this post on a happy note. Three beautiful new #BlogBumpClub babies were born last week – congratulations Goriami, This is Wiss and Space for the Butterflies. You’ve all reminded me that the swollen feet and the tiredness are totally worth it.

Link Up

Anyone else trying to keep upbeat amidst the discomfort this week? How have you all been doing? Link up your latest pregnancy post below and join in the chat.

The #BlogBumpClub is a bit like a blogger antenatal group. It’s no fun if you’re just chatting to yourself so link up and comment on other posts if you can. You can also join in on Twitter using the hashtag – and feel free to tweet me with a link to your post so I can share it too. I’m @mollyjforbes over there.

 

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Comments

  1. MummyandMonkeys says

    September 3, 2014 at 10:26 am

    Journeys are no fun when heavily pregnant. We flew back from Italy and that was bad enough! x

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    • Molly says

      September 4, 2014 at 7:31 am

      I had no idea how hard work sitting down for a while was – totally underestimated it! x

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  2. Milly says

    September 1, 2014 at 9:12 am

    Slow with this weeks #BlogBumpClub … but my bump has finally become a baby! Hurrah hurrah yippee!! …

    Well, of course you’ve been there before but if I can offer any support, having also felt a bit miserable from 36 weeks onwards … now my baby’s here I’ve completely forgotten all of that uncomfortable hugeness. It’s just a few short weeks, the finish line is in sight. But I think it’s ok to wallow in grumpiness sometimes too. You deserve it after 8 months of good humour!

    x Milly / DamBaby

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    • Molly says

      September 1, 2014 at 9:37 am

      Wow! Congratulations! Amazing news – well done! xx

      Reply
  3. ghostwritermummy says

    August 31, 2014 at 3:36 pm

    Ah, it really is all worth it. But you have every right to have a moan now and then because late pregnancy is hard! I’ve been there 3 times already and hope to be there again soon. Suck it up indeed, but don’t forget you are doing an amazing thing and deserve a little extra leeway for that x x x x

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    • Molly says

      September 4, 2014 at 7:30 am

      Thank you! I think I’ll feel better once I’ve completed my final work deadline and can relax a bit – at least that’ll mean I can go to bed at a normal hour, even if I don’t get much sleep when I’m there! x

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  4. Carie says

    August 30, 2014 at 8:24 am

    It really is worth it I promise -and you’re so nearly there now 🙂

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    • Molly says

      September 4, 2014 at 7:29 am

      It’s like the end of the marathon! x

      Reply

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Hello and welcome! I'm Molly Forbes - podcaster, presenter and blogger with a passion for positivity, confidence and body image chat. Regularly writing and vlogging about empowering female issues from a motherhood angle, I also cover lifestyle and fashion topics for like-minded mums who want to rediscover themselves after having children. Thanks for stopping by! Read More…

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I am not “bossing” it. Or “slaying”. Or “hustling”. Or “smashing” it. I’m not even juggling or spinning plates or doing any of the other words we use as a glossy, marketable, Instagram friendly way to package up burnout culture, under the guise of “empowering” women (💪🤢). 
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What I have been doing, though, is working too hard. Call a spade a spade. I’ve been working too hard, neglecting my health, my relationships, my life away from my laptop. I can not be everything to everyone AND work at the level I’ve been working at BECAUSE I AM A HUMAN BEING. And you are too. We are not robots.
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I care deeply about all my work, and things aren’t always this intense, but I wanted to sprinkle some reality into the Gram because I am so over this lie that *any* type of success or achievement doesn’t come at a cost, or involve many failures in the background, or require many other people to help make things happen. 
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I guess what I’m saying is, let’s be real about all that, as well as showing the achievements. I’m bloody proud of my book. And I’m so excited to launch the social enterprise @bodyhappyorg properly next month. But that doesn’t mean it’s easy, and that there isn’t a price. 
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And with that, I’m taking the weekend off. See you on the other side 🥰🥰🥰
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This was taken at the start of half term, when the This was taken at the start of half term, when the kids were still enthusiastic about going for a walk. 1,705 walks around the same bit of countryside later... not so much 😬 
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If you’re struggling to get your kids motivated to move their body at the moment, go gentle. You’re not alone. Bad weather coupled with boredom coupled with the lure of screens is a heady recipe for lethargy - and that’s just me! 
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Seriously though, remember: all movement is valid. Even if it’s just a ten minute @cosmickids sesh or a little kitchen disco, it all counts. And if it comes from a place of enjoyment and fun, kids (and adults!) are going to be far more likely to want to get involved.
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I founded a social enterprise 😵 . Introducing: I founded a social enterprise 😵
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Introducing: @bodyhappyorg 🎉
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We are a Community Interest Company dedicated to promoting positive body image in children. We help adults help the kids in their care be friends with their bodies 🥰. 
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Through workshops and classes, digital and physical resources (both free and paid) we help parents, carers, teachers, youth leaders - and any adults who are ever around children - create body happy settings for kids to thrive in. 
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We launch officially next month with a beautiful new website and lots of resources which we’ll continually be adding to. In the meantime give us a follow at @bodyhappyorg - we start posting from today and our page has been designed as a free resource on its own! 
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I’m privileged to work alongside an incredible team of people on this. Shout-out to the original dream team @chelseacoxstrategist @amysnellingpt @effinitupfaye @lottie_storey @bodyconfidencecards_db @rachel_hobnobs & @aceandping 💕 LOVE YOU ALL! 💕
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Proof that I did wear clothes other than a tea-sta Proof that I did wear clothes other than a tea-stained hoodie and tracksuit bottoms at least once in the past month 😐
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A new report from the Education Policy Institute h A new report from the Education Policy Institute has concluded an obvious gender divide in the well-being of young adults. If you’d like to read more check out this article by Eleanor Peake in @newstatesman (I’ve linked to it in my Stories).
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Every week I get messages from parents and teachers concerned about the impact of social media on their kids’ body image. And of course, I couldn’t write a book about body image in kids and teens without covering social media - there’s a whole chapter in Body Happy Kids dedicated to the subject. 
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The thing is, social media isn’t going anywhere. And just like it can be a force for anxiety, shame and general angst it can be a force for good too. The trick is in knowing how to use it positively (and in holding the platforms to account for not moderating the spread of harmful viral trends and online abuse, and creating algorithms that deliberately create division and harm mental health... but that’s a story for another day). 
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But how can we expect our kids to have a handle on it when we, as adults, don’t ourselves? 
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I don’t believe the answer is to ban social media, but I don’t think kids should be given unfettered access to it either. 
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They need help navigating this stuff, learning about boundaries, developing media literacy skills so they can think critically about the content they’re consuming (just like many adults).
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And we also need to explore how we might be inadvertently contributing to the problem, perpetuating appearance ideals and creating a culture where kids learn it’s ok to body shame under the guise of health and to value each other based on the way they look.
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As ever, it’s complicated. I’d love to know what you think? What are some of the boundaries you have around social media in your house - both for yourself and your kids?
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When I was pregnant with Effie I went to a pregnan When I was pregnant with Effie I went to a pregnancy yoga class every week. It was the highlight of my week. I left each session feeling like I was floating on a cloud, and I used the poses and breath work to guide me through labour too. But then I had my baby and found that, as a knackered new mum of two, I couldn’t find the time for yoga. I no longer had the excuse of doing it “for the bump” or “to prepare for labour”, so what was the point?
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It wasn’t until I started reinvesting in myself and unravelling the diet culture perspective on exercise that I found it again, along with running, which turned to hiking, and swimming. 
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