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Home picks and the Wrenovation survey

May 13, 2015 by Molly 11 Comments

I love interior design. I love writing about it, reading about it and doing it. It’s not something I write about a huge amount here as this has always been my “mum place”, but since I recently accepted that running two blogs just isn’t realistic for me at the moment, I’ve decided to post a bit more about interiors here. So, in between the posts about babies, kids and mum life, you can expect to find more posts about my latest interiors projects too.

I’ve always had pretty clear ideas about how I want the spaces that I live in to look. When I was ten years old my favourite TV show was Changing Rooms (true fact). I can clearly remember redesigning my bedroom aged nine and then again aged 14. I had a lilac and silver colour scheme and my dad made me a bespoke wardrobe complete with lilac muslin and spray-painted silver wood. I also had one of those inflatable armchairs that won me extra cool points with my mates.

Later, at university, I spent four days of the summer holidays painting the bedroom I was about to move into in a shared rented house, because I just couldn’t bare to live in a room that “had no character”. I even made my own tealight candle holders to go with my new room, because I couldn’t afford to buy new ones but couldn’t face living in a room that had no candles.

Now, at the age of 31, I can finally let my love of interiors run free. 16 months ago we moved from a rented house into our first home with a mortgage. Within a month we were ripping up carpets, sanding down floorboards and painting walls. Wren Kitchens have recently published a huge survey into the nation’s decorating habits which make for fascinating reading – especially if, like me, you’re into home improvement. One of the findings that struck me was that only 26% of home-owners have had arguments over decorating decisions because of a clash of styles. I thought the figure would be much higher.

Luckily for me, the (self-proclaimed) Northern Love Machine is happy to let me take the lead when it comes to decorating decisions. Because I do quite a bit of interiors writing for work, I already have a whole load of ideas before we’ve even decided to decorate a room. He’s less bothered about spending hours on Pinterest or reading blogs and beautiful interiors magazines. And he has no interest in trawling through curio shops and searching eBay for the perfect upcycle candidate. Perhaps that’s why we rarely disagree on our decor decisions – he simply can’t be bothered!

I recently wrote a feature for a special edition of OK! Magazine (OK! Mum and Baby) focusing on gender neutral nursery ideas. In my search for products to include in the feature I came across lots of lovely ideas, not only for baby bedrooms but for other rooms in the house too.

I’ve stolen the monochrome colour palette for our new bathroom, which we’re in the process of redecorating. We’re going with bright white walls and one dark grey wall around the window. Floating white shelves, monochrome accessories (including some gorgeous Ferm Living and House Doctor picks) will also be in there. And, perhaps, a pineapple (currently a bit obsessed with pineapple accessories, copper tones, box frame shelves and circular mirrors – see the top pic as evidence of this).

The thing is, the bathroom’s not even finished and I’ve already got plans to update Frog’s bedroom and our own. This is probably because the one room I really want to get cracking on is the kitchen, but we don’t have the budget yet for the kind of changes we’d like to make. According to the Home Wrenovation survey 48% of homeowners give more attention to their kitchen than any other room. This doesn’t really surprise me, as the kitchen is the hub of any home so it follows that you’d want it to look good. For us, the changes we want in the kitchen involve new cabinets, a new floor and taking out an internal window to create a breakfast bar once our girls are older. These are all big changes that cost big money though, so for now we’ll have to live with the dark cabinets and questionable flooring.

You can hear more about the survey over on the Wren YouTube channel.

Tell me, have you ever argued with your partner over decorating? And which room are you most proud of in your house? 

 

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Thanks to Wren Kitchens for working with me this post. For more information about how I work with brands check out my Work With Me page. 

 

Filed Under: Interiors, STYLE Tagged With: home decor, home renovation, interiors style, Wren Kitchens

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Comments

  1. Laura says

    May 17, 2015 at 10:03 pm

    I had a read through the survey and found it really interesting and wasn’t surprised to see we spend the most on our kitchens. I love the pineapple jar a the top by the way

    Laura x

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  2. laura redburn says

    May 15, 2015 at 7:34 am

    hahah ahh, i had an inflatable armchair too. i have that silver pineapple, though i am forever afraid i’ll knock it off my drawers and smash it.

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  3. Jess @ Along Came Cherry says

    May 14, 2015 at 1:27 pm

    Running 2 blogs is so much hard work! I’m not really that house proud at the moment as we live in a tiny house that’s rented and we don’t want to do much to. Mr C gets really annoyed with my for moving furniture around though, he gets home from work and I’ve rearranged all the bedrooms! x

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  4. polly says

    May 14, 2015 at 11:37 am

    He’s learnt to keep quiet and let me get on with the decorating 😉

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  5. Fiona says

    May 13, 2015 at 8:58 pm

    An inflatable armchair! I had a red one. Your new bathroom sounds lovely. We had our kitchen done in September, it’s still not finished. I love it very much, but it is desperate need of a few finishing touches that I don’t have the budget for just yet, wah. x

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  6. abigail says

    May 13, 2015 at 6:03 pm

    I don’t think we’ve ever argued about decorating, or maybe he gets annoyed with me because I’m always thinking ahead and planning a whole list of changes and jobs which we can’t afford! But I like to see the big picture! But thankfully our tastes are the same, or I can be pretty persuasive…

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    • Molly says

      May 13, 2015 at 7:13 pm

      Your house sounds pretty similar to mine!

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  7. Slummy single mummy says

    May 13, 2015 at 2:28 pm

    Glad to hear there will be more interiors stuff coming up – no reason that parents can’t have super stylish homes too after all 🙂

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    • Molly says

      May 13, 2015 at 7:13 pm

      Definitely agree!

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  8. Bryony says

    May 13, 2015 at 9:37 am

    Only 26% argue over decorating decisions!?! That’s crazy… me and Dean are always THOSE people in Homebase arguing over 6 different shades of off white! Also I LOVE those pineapple bathroom accessories at the top x

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    • Molly says

      May 13, 2015 at 7:15 pm

      Ha – I can totally imagine you in the paint aisle at Homebase! I need to buy those pineapple accessories really don’t I?!

      Reply

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