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Sassitude

January 16, 2013 by Molly 16 Comments

Sassitude

My daughter has always had attitude. At seven hours old, she let the world know she’d arrived by waking all the other sleeping babies on the hospital ward with loud shouts. The nurses joked she’d be an opera singer. I winced.

Her spirit was apparant when she refused to take a bottle of expressed milk. Ever. Medicine on a spoon? No way. In fact, if she didn’t want to do it or she wasn’t 100% in control of it, she was not a fan. Not a fan at all.

I’ve since learned that the best way to persuade my two and a half year old to do something not involving chocolate or paint is to make her think it was her idea. This helps in certain situations, but not in ones involving a new personality trait she’s been displaying recently.

Sassitude.

It came from nowhere, much like Gangnam Style, and then firmly refused to budge. In fact, the first hint of sass was centred around said Korean pop tune. “I WANT DANDELION STYLE MUMMY!” wailed my toddler, as I refused to play it for the millionth time in a row.

When asked to get in the bath: “I NOT get in bath Mummy!”

When told it’s bed time: “It NOT bedtime Mummy!”

When scolded by her father for her “sass”: “I sassy and I know it! I DRAMA queen!”

There is no hope.

Dad and daughter watching football

Watching football, counting money, with sassitude

 

 

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Comments

  1. Josie says

    January 18, 2013 at 6:05 pm

    Girl’s got character, which is only a good thing surely 😉

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    • Molly says

      January 19, 2013 at 6:17 pm

      This is true. Her spirit wouldn’t be there without the sass. I repeat this over and over again to myself as I sigh in frustration when she is at her most sassy!

      Reply
  2. northernmum says

    January 17, 2013 at 8:46 pm

    I love that kid!

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  3. anna tims (@ageingmatron) says

    January 17, 2013 at 7:36 pm

    Everything you say is summed up by the picture of her using the Master of the House as a recliner. I have similar problems – except that my little diva is 10!

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  4. jo says

    January 17, 2013 at 1:35 pm

    Oh we have that all the time! I just say to H “I don’t want a cuddle from you or for you to sit on my knee and sing songs with me” and she’ll do it.

    or “I don’t want you to go in the bath as I’m going to have it instead” – I’ve never seen her move so fast…

    Probably cruel, but it seems to work, and we’re limited on time too!

    Yesterday before swimming she refused to wash her hands after going to the toilet, so I told her she’d miss ‘Wheels on the Bus’ at swimming on her last ever lesson, which sprung her into action, amazingly….

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  5. Ruth says

    January 17, 2013 at 11:41 am

    I empathise greatly. We have one of those too. It gets much worse when he’s tired – there is just no reasoning to be done at all.

    Does she do foot-stamping yet? It is hard not to laugh, but oh my word, such stubbornness. Sadly I have to admit that T gets it from me, so I’m not in a position to criticise too much.

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  6. Bumptomum says

    January 16, 2013 at 10:02 pm

    That’s really funny reminds me of my two year old

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    • Molly says

      January 17, 2013 at 9:50 am

      Ha – glad I’m not the only one putting up with sassitude!

      Reply
  7. Emma says

    January 16, 2013 at 9:15 pm

    I love this and wish I could meet her – I’m sure Erin and F would be great buddies! Erin is in a big mummy faze atm. Daddy is not allowed to speak to her and she has mastered foot stamping!

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    • Molly says

      January 17, 2013 at 9:48 am

      She already calls Jane “Mummy Jane”. It’ll be even worse when she meets you – it’ll be Mummy Emma, Mummy Jane and “MOLLY” (what she calls me!).

      Reply
  8. TheMadHouse says

    January 16, 2013 at 8:43 pm

    Oh the tenacious toddler. I have two children who know their own mind and wo betide anyone who gets in their way

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    • Molly says

      January 17, 2013 at 9:49 am

      Sigh. I guess we can’t have the fun side of them without the odd feisty moment!

      Reply
  9. HELEN says

    January 16, 2013 at 8:42 pm

    awww Molly she is sooo cute, I love her….but no, you can keep her thanks! 😉
    x

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    • Molly says

      January 17, 2013 at 9:50 am

      She’s not an easy one!

      Reply
  10. helloitsgemma says

    January 16, 2013 at 8:27 pm

    Am loving her style! Where does that attitude come from??

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  11. Louise Turner says

    January 16, 2013 at 8:24 pm

    Oh dear. We have one of those too. Think ours gets it from her mother. There is no hope…

    Reply

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