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It’s cool to be normal

March 24, 2017 by Molly 12 Comments

The pressure is huge sometimes, huh? Aside from being perfectly patient parents, offering our kids multiple opportunities, always being there, happy and smiling, cherishing every moment, we have to be cool mums, fit mums, in shape, with stylish outfits and trendy baby bags. Instagram, magazines, YouTube… social media and mainstream media have merged to create an idealised image of mum that most of us (at least, most of the parents I know) simply can’t live up to.

But you know what? It’s not normal. Here’s what most normal mums in my life look like: slightly frazzled, doing the best they can, loving their kids, doing the school run with their hair scraped back into a pony tail and roots showing. They juggle work deadlines and often unsociable working hours around children, PTA commitments and Eastenders viewing. They don’t wear designer clothes or go out to trendy restaurants every other night. Most evenings they can be found at home, in their pyjamas by 8pm, very probably sipping a well earned glass of wine. In my world, this is normal. 

(What a normal mum looks like trying to get her kids to pose for an Instagram photo)

And you know what else? Normal is cool. And it’s so underrated, in my opinion. Normal mums work hard, sometimes raising families alone, sometimes alongside equally hardworking partners. They make decisions about where to go on holiday, what brand of cereal to buy the kids and where to go on a family day out at the weekend. They are raising thoughtful, kind and balanced kids who appreciate the opportunities given them – even if they sometimes kick off in the fruit and veg aisle at the local supermarket.

There is such a huge trend at the moment for mums to be told that, on the one hand, they’re doing a great job yet, on the other, they need to be just a little more in shape, with a better hairstyle, better clothes, more Instagrammable home. And the more we strive for this idea of cool, of perfect, of “aspirational”, the shorter we fall. And the more unhappy we become. And the more we lose precious moments of our kids’ short childhoods by stressing that we’re somehow not enough.

We are enough. 

You’re enough. I’m enough. We’re all enough. We don’t need Pinterest-perfect living rooms and beautifully manicured nails and cool logo’d jumpers and kids who don’t rub jam into the carpet. What we do need is a big fat dose of reality and a reminder that the majority of parents are just like us – doing our best, juggling parenting and work deadlines and finances that won’t stretch to infinity.

When I blog about things like clothes or beauty or my home, I do it in a way that I hope will relate and resonate with “normal” mums just like me. I’m always honest about the fact my life isn’t a perfectly curated Instagram feed. You only have to watch one of my YouTube videos to know that. It’s mum life, uncut. A no-holes barred look at my life as a mum. And I’m happy to share it with you because I reckon, the very high chances are, you’re in exactly the same boat.

I hope you know that. And I hope you know how cool you are, just for being normal.

 

P.S. You know your kids think you’re a superhero, right? And that’s all that matters, really?

 

Filed Under: Kids, MOTHERHOOD Tagged With: being a mum, motherhood, normal mum, real family life, real mum life

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Comments

  1. katie says

    March 27, 2017 at 11:48 am

    Thank you for this post, much needed for this very normal mum of a seven month old! x

    Reply
    • Molly says

      March 31, 2017 at 6:25 pm

      You are more than welcome. xx

      Reply
  2. Chloe (Sorry About The Mess) says

    March 26, 2017 at 9:46 am

    This is a really great post. It feels like there are a lot of expectations of the online world’s image of a ‘perfect mum’, if we try to keep up, we will definitely be falling short. I love when I see a version of ‘my normal’ – basically, anyone who isn’t afraid to show an untidy house or that they haven’t brushed their hair that day.

    Reply
    • Molly says

      March 31, 2017 at 6:26 pm

      Absolutely agree. No such thing as “perfect mum”!

      Reply
  3. Sarah Rooftops says

    March 25, 2017 at 11:19 am

    A big HURRAH!!!!

    Reply
    • Molly says

      March 31, 2017 at 6:26 pm

      YESSSSS! xx

      Reply
  4. Marylin says

    March 25, 2017 at 10:54 am

    Ahh what a fab post sweety, and SO true! To me there’s no such thing as perfect, and “balance” is another one that irks me, but I won’t get started on that now lol!
    I love that you share everything on your vlogs, makes you feel very relatable! Though like Sally said, you always seem like you’ve got your stuff handled! 😉 mind you, to me so does Sally! And then sometimes my friends say the same to me and I’m all “are you kidding?!” ????
    Yay to a normal life!

    Reply
    • Molly says

      March 31, 2017 at 6:26 pm

      We’re all in it aren’t we. No matter how perfect our IG feeds may suggest!!

      Reply
  5. Kelly | To Become Mum says

    March 25, 2017 at 8:18 am

    THIS! We can all have aspirations but they shouldn’t get in the way of enjoying what you have.

    My motto this year, as I’ve written about, is ‘good for you, not for me’ to remind me that it’s ok to admire others but it’s not always going to be something I can / should want for myself. Hurray to all is normal mums!

    Reply
    • Molly says

      March 31, 2017 at 6:26 pm

      I 100% agree with you. Love your motto xx

      Reply
  6. Sally says

    March 24, 2017 at 9:20 pm

    Also Molly, to be fair, your “normal” is my “God, I wish I could look that together”.

    So even if you think you’re looking completely dodgy, there’s always something doing an EVEN worse job of keeping it all slick, who thinks you’re awesome.

    Reply
    • Molly says

      March 24, 2017 at 9:50 pm

      Man, I don’t feel together most days! But I’ll take “awesome” – thank you!

      Reply

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Hello and welcome! I'm Molly Forbes - blogger, YouTuber, journalist and presenter with a passion for positivity, confidence and body image chat. Regularly writing and vlogging about empowering female issues from a motherhood angle, I also cover lifestyle and fashion topics for like-minded mums who want to rediscover themselves after having children. Thanks for stopping by! Read More…

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