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Sunshine

May 30, 2012 by Molly 22 Comments

It’s 3 o’clock in the afternoon and I’ve hit a wall. I’ve done an eight hour radio shift, almost two hours of commuting and my toddler is running me ragged.

During the last hour I’ve already become victim to at least four violent, stormy tantrums. The Terrible Twos are taking their toll.

Having sought some cool in the kitchen I move myself and my angry 23 month old into the garden. She is hot and bothered. Grumpy.

But she spies her second favourite thing in the world. Her hat. And I bask in the radiance of her smile, snapping the moment on my phone to remind myself of this happiness when the next tantrum arrives.

The storm clouds gather yet again. A wave of darkness passes across my daughter’s face. She angrily bats away suggestion of playing in the sandpit.

The day is narrowly saved by paint, grass and sunshine.

Tantrum averted. Phew.

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This is my offering to this week’s Gallery, where the theme is “Sunshine”. Head over to Sticky Fingers to see the rest.

Filed Under: PLAY Tagged With: behaviour, craft, mess, paint, play, Sunshine, tantrums, terrible twos, toddlers

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  1. Grandma from the North says

    June 1, 2012 at 7:34 pm

    Think you have a new art form here! baby body painting! XX

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  2. Mammasaurus says

    June 1, 2012 at 1:22 am

    Painty, sunny and fun – just what summer should be about.
    Well that and Pimms…obvs

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  3. Mari says

    May 31, 2012 at 9:11 pm

    Gorgeous photos! Love that painting one, we had similar this week and the walk from the garden to the bathroom to wash hands, legs etc in my house was ‘DON”T touch anything’ 😉

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  4. Kate On Thin Ice says

    May 31, 2012 at 3:40 pm

    Love that last shot.
    Like your writing too, telling the story.
    A child that likes hats, wonderful. Mine don’t.

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    • Molly says

      May 31, 2012 at 5:54 pm

      It’s not always a great thing – especially when she wants to have a bath while still wearing her woolly hat.

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  5. Only Best For Baby says

    May 31, 2012 at 6:46 am

    Wonderful photos, inspiring methods of distraction! Well done 🙂

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    • Molly says

      May 31, 2012 at 5:53 pm

      Thank you – at least the mess was kept outdoors.

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  6. Jenn says

    May 31, 2012 at 12:50 am

    LOVE the second picture – what we do to survive the tantrums and not end up as raving drunks by the time they turn 5…erm…8…erm…yeah.

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    • Molly says

      May 31, 2012 at 5:46 am

      I hear you! x

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  7. emma @mummymummymum says

    May 30, 2012 at 8:50 pm

    Lovely Molly. Painted legs are the way forward!

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    • Molly says

      May 31, 2012 at 5:44 am

      It’s a good look, I agree. *Lies*

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  8. mymummylife says

    May 30, 2012 at 8:23 pm

    Oh. My. Goodness. That paint pic chills my bones. That sort of thing is *definitely* best left for nursery. Mind you, I guess no clothes were ruined in the taking of that picture…

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    • Molly says

      May 31, 2012 at 5:44 am

      This is true. It’s a definite plus of the sunshine. And the bonus is, she’s so small she can just sit in a washing up bowl full of water to clean up afterwards.

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  9. Mummylimited says

    May 30, 2012 at 7:29 pm

    I really don’t know how you do it and stay so calm too. Great photos. I love the paint one

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    • Molly says

      May 31, 2012 at 5:36 am

      Calm isn’t the word I’d use – inside I’m a stressed out mess!

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  10. helloitsgemma says

    May 30, 2012 at 7:18 pm

    you are a very good mummy – there is no way I could tolerate that amount of paint.

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    • Molly says

      May 31, 2012 at 5:35 am

      It was that or another tantrum. I hate the tantrums!

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  11. Nikki Thomas says

    May 30, 2012 at 6:26 pm

    That is a fabulous hat! And the second picture made me laugh – the lengths you go to to keep them happy! I have a two year old diva who has the mother of all tantrums so I can sympathise!

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    • Molly says

      May 31, 2012 at 5:35 am

      It’s like walking on constant egg shells, waiting for the next tantrum to surface!

      Reply
  12. Emily (@amummytoo) says

    May 30, 2012 at 6:22 pm

    Cute!!

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    • Molly says

      May 31, 2012 at 5:35 am

      Ah thank you, I’m blushing… what? You didn’t mean me?! x

      Reply
  13. Kelly says

    May 30, 2012 at 6:19 pm

    Beautiful pics! Not just me having the tantrums then , phew. Sheesh, they are wearing hey?! Good tactic tho, distraction all the way!

    Reply

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Hello and welcome! I'm Molly Forbes - podcaster, presenter and blogger with a passion for positivity, confidence and body image chat. Regularly writing and vlogging about empowering female issues from a motherhood angle, I also cover lifestyle and fashion topics for like-minded mums who want to rediscover themselves after having children. Thanks for stopping by! Read More…

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The current climate of intense body shaming disguised as health concern is creating policies which actively damage the relationship children have with their bodies. There is a huge amount of evidence showing that the better kids feel about their body, the more likely they are to make choices that make their body feel good - like taking part in movement or eating in a happy, intuitive way. 
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If you care about health you need to be aware that weight stigma kills and poor body image has serious health implications. Want kids to eat more nutrient dense food and move their body? Stop shaming them and teaching them their body is wrong, because research shows body hate is NOT a long term motivator for treating a body with care or respect. 
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And then realise that even when kids ARE eating more nutrient dense food and moving more this will not guarantee their body will shrink. And this doesn’t mean they are unhealthy, despite what the headlines might tell you.
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