My toddler is lucky. Really, really lucky. She has two sets of grandparents who adore her.
She’s been adored from the moment they met her.
In fact, as I write this, my little girl is with one set of grandparents (my parents) down in Devon, on her own. And you know what? That’s how it should be.
My daughter’s grandparents love her and want to spend time with her and I like that they (sometimes) get to do that without me. Frog’s completely comfortable with both Grandma and Granddad, Marmar and Dadaz.
As much as I want to be part of the memories she’s making – the beach visits and the icecreams, the trips to the park and the bedtime stories – there’s something pretty special about the fact she’s doing these things without me. She’s spending quality time with people who love her, without me.
I remember when Frog was just over a year old, we left her for a night with her northern grandparents, while we visited friends nearby. I was anxious at first, but after being reminded she was being looked after by a couple who’d happily raised three of their own boys, I knew not to fret.
As much as we loved the night off, it was also lovely to know Frog had enjoyed some time bonding with her grandparents without us being there to distract her. Now, if she cries when her grandparents are around, she’s just as likely to go to one of them for a cuddle as she is to come to me or her dad. Sometimes she actually prefers to be on her own with them, demanding “Mummy and Daddy NOT here now”, while she pulls a grandparent this way or that.
My mum tries to explain to me how different it is having a grandchild compared to having a child. I think it’s something about enjoying each phase more, being more laid back and having the time and patience not to worry about things. And there’s something in there about not feeling guilty proffering treats near to teatime.
Here are some moments between Frog and her Marmar and Dadaz, the ones who reside in Devon. I’m sure there have been lots more like these over the last couple of days, but I haven’t been there to snap them. As it should be.